Goood morning everyone, and happy Sunday! Today we are spending the morning with Hailey Moroney, also known as our happy mess on Instagram; this really hip, cool (even though she thinks there is no such thing as a cool mom), and young momma of two beautiful girls Lidiana (4) and Allegra (2 and a half), living in South Australia in the Adelaide Hills. She’s inspiring, true and sending real mom envy to all of us moms following her adventures every day. Of course, when the days are spent with their feet in the sand, and their dreamy dresses flowing in the wind, life could only be so good.
But it can’t be all what it looks like in the pictures, can’t it? We can’t help but ask, so we talked to Hailey and asked for the naked truth. How does their happy mess feel like every day? What does like actually look like behind those picture-perfect Instagram snaps? How does a normal day in your life look like? What do you miss most about life before kids? So many questions, and this mamma will open up to Realmomster and talk to us.
Find out everything in this interview with this gorgeous mom.
1.So, you’re a mom to two girls. What’s the most exciting thing about raising two girls? What about the hardest/ scariest?
The most exciting thing is actually just being able to raising young women, raising them to be strong, assertive and know their worth. The scary thing is the fact that my girls are growing up in a world where equality for women still isn’t there. Don’t get me wrong, it’s better, but I feel it’s a scary time, many people think the gap has been closed, but that isn’t entirely true. When we still have pay inequality and degrading statements are still made in reference about women to degrade men. I want my girls to live in a world where the statement “Like a girl” isn’t a bad thing.
2. What’s the moment you feel you became such an inspiration on Instagram, and why do you think that happened? How are you managing your community on Ig?
I don’t really feel like I am an inspiration, I wish I was more of an inspiration. I feel I am still finding my feet with this platform. Maybe I need a blog. I love my followers and my interactions, it’s really easy to manage because honestly I’m just sharing my day to day life with the kids.
3. Who takes your gorgeous pictures, and what do you look to capture in them? Real life moments, curated pictures of your babies, inspiration for other mums..?
My 4-year-old takes a lot of the pictures I am in, along with my husband and my best friend. I do take quite a few of them myself, I haven’t quite nailed the selfie, but I’m working on it. I am in no way a photographer (I use my phone and have no idea about editing pictures) I feel with my feed is just organic life, if we do something fun I capture it, if we play princesses and braid hair I capture it. If we are having a boring day I post a story about it. I am pretty transparent however I can always improve on the honesty and difficult times of motherhood. My feed is still something quite new to me and I feel that I am still finding my groove or my niche, but I like real life moments, curated and inspirational quotes and expressing my feelings through my posts.
4. How do you feel you have you changed since becoming a mom?
A lot, I am not the same person I was before, like honestly not even close! My goals are different, my lifestyle is different, even my friends are different. The only thing consistent is my husband, he’s the only thing that hasn’t changed. I mean we even moved from the city to the country to create a life that we thought would be best for our children.
5. You seem to be leading such an organic, free, relaxed life, which so many of us envy… even your Instagram account seems organic. What inspires you to be so different from others, what is your biggest drive in the morning and how do you manage to stay authentic and true?
I think it’s easy to be organic and true to yourself, so long as you stay true to who you are, post the real life moments and don’t pretend to be something that you’re not. What I post is us, it’s our days, sometimes stylish, sometimes ‘warts and all’. We live a simple life. It’s not always interesting but it is full of love (doesn’t meant I don’t have my crazy moments) doesn’t mean I enjoy playing Barbie’s for the 40th hour in a row or cleaning every room in the house eight times a day.
Let’s be honest, no matter what we post, the behind the scenes are all very similar.
6. Is there anything you miss about life before babies?
Travel and sleep. Mainly sleep. Ohh and personal space, going to the toilet on my own seems like a fond distant memory. However, at the same time I wouldn’t change any of it. We’ve made a real pact this year to travel more and buy less. It is now time to get back on our feet, see more of Australia and show the girls what is out there.
7. What do you think is the secret in mixing motherhood with a career and a relationship on top? Have you ever felt a lack of balance in this aspect of life?
I think I feel a lack of balance all the time. Especially when it comes to quality time with my husband, I mean seriously what is that? We have very minimal support. Motherhood and all its expectations overwhelm me daily, mum guilt keeps me awake most nights. I am far from perfect but I try and I try hard and I think that is all that matters and that my kids know I love them unconditionally.
8. Do you ever take time away from the girls, and if yes, what do you do then? Does it come together with a little bit of *Mom Guilt*?
I very rarely ever get time away from the children. I work for 6 hours a week which is a little break and then occasionally I’ll watch a movie with my besties, kid free. Usually my me time is a glass of wine with my bestie while our kids play. We both have very little support, so we get it. If I ever get a chance to do something for me, it’s usually something relaxing like a facial. The last time I had a facial I was 30 weeks pregnant with Allegra and she is nearly 3 now. I like sleep, so I nap, which I guess can be classed as me time. In all honesty I don’t know what me time is anymore and I don’t know who I am without my children. I feel like I am missing a limb if they are not with me.
9. How did your relationship change after the kids, and what do you do to keep it fresh and active every day?
Our relationship hasn’t really changed which is good, other than getting any real alone time. We don’t go on dinners etc. but the main parts of a relationship the love, the connection the fun is still there. He is my best friend and I couldn’t do life without him.
10. What is your take on motherhood, and how would you describe yourself as a mom?
It’s much harder than I imagined, but so enjoyable at the same time. It’s like you can’t wait to get away from them, but then miss them as soon as they sleep. It’s a cruel torture of the emotions really. My take on motherhood is try to not take yourself too seriously, love them fiercely and instill the values you want them to take with them in life.
Have fun and remember no one is a cool mum, we are all just regular mums.
11. And now… tell us, what is life like behind-the-scenes of those picture-perfect Instagram snaps? It all looks so calm and stylish, but I am sure that behind the lense, there’s much more. 🙂 We look forward to knowing the naked truth.
My life is just like everyone else’s, we cry, we laugh, we struggle, we disagree, we adventure, we sleep, we eat, we pay bills, we just do it in style. No… that last part is a lie, I often live in my dressing gown. I love it.
Finish the sentence…
Beauty essential… bb cream
First thing in the morning… coffee
Last thought before going to sleep…mumma guilt
My favourite moment with the girls… meeting them for the first time.
My dream holiday…anywhere with my family
On my bucket list…Lidi really wants to go to Hawaii (no idea where she has even heard that before) or Italy to visit hubby’s family.
Thank you so much Hailey, and moms, don’t miss her on Instagram!